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Dysfunctional family: 5 characteristics

The usual thing is that a person who comes from a dysfunctional family reproduces his characteristics when he forms his own family. If not treated professionally, this chain continues and gets worse in the following generations.

Many of the problems in the world start in a dysfunctional family . That primary environment, that by learning from it so much and in such a short time, in many cases leaves us with the deepest footprint. It can condition and much the fact that a person leaves with advantage or disadvantage when facing different vital challenges.

Many of the problems in the world start in a dysfunctional family . That primary environment, that by learning from it so much and in such a short time, in many cases leaves us with the deepest footprint. It can condition and much the fact that a person leaves with advantage or disadvantage when facing different vital challenges.

Some people make up a couple and have children based on a pattern, which they repeat or in front of which they have been reactive, but in the end they have never been questioned . They may want to make sense of a life they perceive without direction. Sometimes they also come from dysfunctional families from which they want to escape, without paying the price that autonomy implies.

Whatever the case, the truth is that sometimes those who make up a home are not physically, mentally, or emotionally prepared to do so . It is then when a dysfunctional family is configured. The consequences for each of its members are unpredictable, but almost always generate difficulty or impossibility to lead a full life. What makes a family dysfunctional? These are some of its characteristics.

Abuse is present in the dysfunctional family

There are many types and degrees of dysfunction in a family. However, here we will deal with the dysfunctional family that generates heavy damage in those who compose it. Making this reservation, we can say that the first great feature of this type of family is the predominance of relationships  that, far from favoring development, harm it.

Abuse is defined as any act intended to harm another person who is in a position of disadvantage or vulnerability. It is also defined as an excess of power. That is, as the exercise of authority without logic and without moderation. The abuse can be physical, psychological and / or sexual. In all cases it generates serious consequences.

Every member of the family feels unworthy

It is very usual for each member of the dysfunctional family to be dealing with challenges that the group itself makes more difficult. Also, in a family with this climate it is very difficult to find someone who is able to  understand or validate the  feelings  of others . In fact, it is usual to do the opposite: despise or deny them.

It is also common for everyone to be intolerant of the defects or errors of others. That they criticize each other, sometimes in a very cruel way. Destructive feelings prevail and that is why each individual feels that it has very little value.

They make you witness of domestic violence

It is quite usual that in the dysfunctional family one or both parents are addicted . Or that one of them, or both, have some kind of emotional or mental disorder . This leads to situations that are very strange and incomprehensible for children.

Specifically, all that amalgam of problems often leads to episodes of violence that terrorize children and add to a chronic conflict with parents. Witnessing the cries and / or blows or being a victim of them marks and defines the springs that shape the internal dialogue of each person. In addition, an imprecise fear remains inhabiting the interior of those who live this .

Prima the unpredictable, chaotic and insecure

If something needs a child to grow up healthy, it’s about security and stability. In a dysfunctional family the opposite is presented . Today there may not be serious difficulties, but tomorrow you do not know. Maybe today’s hit did not cause more damage, but what about the next one?

That uncertainty, that chaos and that insecurity emotionally harm people. Especially, to children. It is very likely that they present strong stress traits in day to day and post-traumatic stress, in the medium and long term . They will become nervous, susceptible, timid. They will fear the world and even themselves.

They ask you not to talk, do not trust and do not feel

These three mandates are very often found in dysfunctional families. The first is that you do not talk, in particular, about what happens in your family . You can not talk about what you feel, because nobody cares. You can not even talk about what happens because who are you to question what happens?

Likewise, you are taught not to trust. The dysfunctional family usually becomes hermetic, giving shape to a closed and corrosive world that is governed by a logic that is pure poison . Everything foreign to that bubble in many cases is viewed with suspicion. Thus, if you do not trust what is inside that ecosystem or what is outside, people live in a state of constant tension.

A dysfunctional family requires professional therapeutic intervention . The effect it has on each of the members is not the same. In some cases that footprint can be devastating. In other cases, condemn an uninspiring life in which fear prevails. The certain thing is that of not interrupting the chain, by means of the professional attention, the habitual thing is that, by inertia, they are continued repeating and increasing the problems of generation in generation.

 

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